How do you see mistakes? Are you afraid of making them? When it comes to change your career, do you feel it is a failure? What it means trial and error for you?
I wanted to talk about this, as I receive messages from people and meet my clients. It looks like a career change is a failure.
It seems that if we don’t know what we want to do, or we don’t have everything figure out by specific age, then we are a failure.
For me failing, is not playing the game in life all in. That is failing big time.
People who do not risk, change, try new things, then they never grow. If you want, play it safe always. Then you will be missing out on growing and learning.
Another thing is if we do not try different things, how we can know what we like or what we don’t? Think about it. Or you want to be like when we were kids, and we said we don’t like certain foods, but the truth is we never try it.
I don’t know why we are so scared to make mistakes. Firstly, who says it is a mistake? Secondly, there won’t be any growth without those “mistakes” that I like to call redirections or lessons. Getting out of comfort zones is essential to growth and seeing things from a different perspective.
The problem that I found most commonly, with me, my clients, and all the people I know. It is that we do not know ourselves, and that creates a lot of insecurities. Example for you to understand:
“I love going on trips to the USA and going to other places like Asia, Japan, and Australia when I speak. I got nervous, and I love to travel, and I am used to it. Why? Because I know the terrain, which food I will find, some language barriers, cultural issues. I am super confident in the USA because I know what I can discover, my problems, and how to sort them out. I am in my comfort zone.”
With ourselves happens the same. If we do not know ourselves, then less confident, we are. We do not know how to react when rejected in the interview (or we know too well and do not want to face it). We do not know how to write a CV to represent our achievements (probably we think we do not have any).
It is essential to know ourselves because then we will be to know the right moment then we need to adjust our sails and change the route, and we will do it bravely. Not without fear, because this is impossible, but bravely, will the security we have all the tools we need to face this change and embrace this discomfort successfully.
The truth is that Career Happiness is a journey, not a destination. If you leave life as you are supposed to be, you will change through years; what you wanted at 18 won’t be the same as what you wanted at 25, either 35 or 45. And this is okay!
Experience is one of the best teachers; that’s why I believe in trial and error because no one has the infallible formula on what will work for me.
So as I grow, and I try different things, much more, if I do not know what I want to do, and I have no idea yet, of my purpose, or which job will fulfil me and make me happy. Knowing that can change anytime again, and nothing happens, takes off the pressure.
The benefits of changing without fear, and risk-taking, are huge for personal growth. And as well to your career, you will extract a lot of achievements, and you will prove by experience that you are resilient and flexible, and these are two things that most companies look out for when hiring.
” When I quit my corporate job, to be a full-time coach and self-employed. I’ve been fed up with that job for more than a year; I planned my whole way out. The week after my last day, my boss offered me a promotion. And the same day, I found myself sitting in my room, thinking about it. I didn’t want to call my partner, or anyone, because other opinions confuse us most of the time, and in the end, it is our life, and we need to make those decisions for ourselves. I couldn’t believe what was happening to me. I was a week away to reach my freedom, and I was hesitating. How was this possible? Because of the comfort zone and the fear of being in the unknown territory of being a full-time coach”.
So, I coached myself and came up with those questions that help me, and today I want to share with you to help you. If you are in a similar situation, or if you are scared of trial and error. And you feel you are a failure because you want to change your career.
- Where this decision is coming from? – Normally, it will be the reply of a feeling. The case I put you above was from fear.
- What is the worst that can happen? – Put the biggest disasters you imagine. And then assess the % of probability that would happen.
- What are the benefits of doing it? – What positive things going one way or the other will bring you.
- This decision gets me closer to my goal? (big picture) – When you see your ultimate goal, your big picture, which one gets you closer.
If you feel that you are in the wrong career, it is time to move. And you are struggling to make the decision of making that change.
If you are committed to making this career change, but it looks like you are not getting anywhere by yourself, and you realise you feel insecure and needs someone to help you get through it. So let’s have a free vibe call! I got you!
Life is happening right now, and time is the only thing we will never get back, to lose it in a job where we spent most of our time that we hate. Let’s design your Heart-led Career Change together right now!